Most women enjoy close companionship, so when a woman takes the drastic step of ending a relationship with a man, shes usually doing it because she doesnt see any other way to deal with a situation shes no longer comfortable in. Depending on the woman, she may tell him to his face, or she may just up and leave without warning.
Right now youre in a situation where your woman has left and you want to figure out how you can get her back into your life. The good news is that there are many couples who are able to mend their relationship after a breakup. Your situation between you and your ex love is unique, so I dont know exactly why she left you. However, there are some common reasons why women leave a relationship:
1) Her expectations werent met in the relationship
When people enter a relationship they have high expectations. Im sure that you and your ex girlfriend both had high hopes that youd both be what the other was looking for. Initially, this is what happened, since she did, in fact, meet you, fall in love and commit to sharing her life with you. What happened?
Somewhere along the way, your ex girlfriend became disappointed that her initial expectations of you, or what things would be like between the two of you, werent met. Nobodys perfect and everybody has something they need to work on. Maybe certain things you did or said got on her nerves and you never bothered doing anything about it.
Maybe she had unrealistic expectations of what you could or would be willing to do for her. Maybe she wants you to be a father to her kids and you werent able to do this. Maybe she wants you to be more romantic or not such a bum.
Whatever expectations she had in the beginning of your relationship, she has decided that, for now, those expectations arent going to be fulfilled with you. You might be thinking that this isnt fair. But, regardless, she didnt get what she needed from you or the relationship and shes gone.
Can you find out what she expects from you and work towards changing your behavior so that she feels more satisfied?
2) You didnt communicate with her enough
Okay, this is a big one. Most experts agree that women are masters of communication. Women thrive on having give and take with their partner. She wants to feel like she can talk to you about anything and that youll at least be kind enough to listen to her. When a man is willing to have open communication with his lady, hes signaling to her that he really cares about her in a deep way.
On the opposite end, when a man shuts down communication, brushes her off or acts uninterested in what she has to say, then hes just asking for her to turn away from him. Many men get annoyed because they feel their woman talks too much, or talks about stuff theyre not interested in. This is fair. Maybe she does talk too much.
Thats not the point. You dont have to listen to her talk for hours, but what if you decided to spend just 30 minutes a day sharing conversation with your girlfriend? Just the two of you sharing details about your day and what you both find important. Do you think this would make her feel like she matters?
You bet it would!
Are you good about sharing conversation with your girlfriend? Did you take the time to listen to her needs and interests? Do you treat her like an equal when you speak to her? Are you respectful in your conversations with her?
3) The intimacy between the two of you has vanished
Intimacy between couples is very important to some and not so important to others. If you are a good match with your girlfriend, then both of you should be on the same intimacy level. If she likes holding hands in the park, then so do you. If she likes kissing and hugging spontaneously then so do you. If she likes whispering and sharing secrets, then so do you. If she enjoys making love at least once a week, then so do you.
When intimacy breaks down in a relationship, usually one partner ends up being more dissatisfied with this situation than the other. Some women need a constant dose of intimacy with their partner in order to feel like theyre loved. Sometimes a man doesnt recognize his womans need for intimacy and takes her for granted.
Yeah, maybe youre having sex when you want it, but is she being satisfied? Do you bother holding hands with her or giving her little gifts that show how much you love and appreciate her? Do you brush her cheek with your hand or put your arm around her when you know she needs a hug?
All these things are part of being intimate with your girlfriend. Never assume that she knows how much you love her show her.
4) You started seeing another woman and she found out
Cheating on your woman is the ultimate betrayal. If youve done this, then you already know you belong in the dog house. This is the most serious offense a man can commit in his relationship because it breaks the bond of trust between you and your girlfriend. Once trust is broken, its hard to get back.
Youll have to do a lot of praying and image repair to get your girlfriend to even think about trusting you again. However, if shes willing to forgive you, you can win back her love with time and careful attention to her needs. Oh yeah, theres no other option but to commit to being faithful to her for as long as you are in your relationship together.